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The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters

by Priya Parker

Why your meetings fail, and how to fix them.

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you're hosting people and want it to matter.

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Parker, a facilitator who trains groups in conflict zones, argues that most of our meetings, dinners and conferences fail because nobody decided what they were for. She gives a method: pick a bold purpose, be a generous host with firm rules, and design the moments that matter. It reads like a manual for turning a room of people into a community on purpose.

Where This Book Lives

Parker is a conflict-resolution facilitator, and the book's instincts are close to the container-not-content idea that shapes DoCR. It's practical for salons, zine fairs and workshops. It's written for a professional audience, so some examples lean corporate, but the principles carry.

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