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Mary Wears What She Wants

by Keith Negley

She wore pants. The law came for her anyway.

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your kid keeps asking why the rules are different for girls.

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In the 1800s, Mary Edwards Walker wore pants because she wanted to, and she kept wearing them when people stared, scolded and arrested her. This picture book tells her story in a few lines a page and bold, flat illustrations: the doctor, the Civil War surgeon, the woman who would not change her clothes to please anyone. Underneath, a plain question for a child: who made the rule, and why should it be followed?

Where This Book Lives

Mary Edwards Walker was a surgeon in the US Civil War and the only woman to receive the Medal of Honor, and she was arrested more than once for wearing men's clothing. The book keeps it short and does not go into the details of her life beyond the clothes. A good opener for a conversation about dress codes and who gets to decide.

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